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Amanda Saint's avatar

You’re right. When all my memories and real true heart feelings were suppressed, I used to be sick all the time with chest, sinus and throat infections. Now I never get sick! I hope the election brings you what you need. I mean it too when I ask. Thank you for telling me how you feel 💙

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Oh and I’ve never heard of Leo Buscaglia. I’ll look him up.

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I looked him up. His books sound great. And I’m honoured that my writing reminded you of him as I’m all about LOVE! Will ponder on the books. I have very little memory of my childhood and adolescence as it was so traumatic!

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Don Boivin's avatar

Your standard greeting is a shortened version of a greeting that my wife and I were just talking about yesterday: “How you doing, all right?” The asker is basically answering the question for you because they don’t really want to hear otherwise.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we used words with more intention and awareness? Then, instead of asking questions that we really don’t want answers to, we could, say, offer a blessing. “I wish you well today.” That’s pretty easy. And then, even if the person is doing badly, they’ve just had someone express the hope that their day gets better!

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Amanda Saint's avatar

That’s a great idea, Don! Wouldn’t that be a lovely way to greet each other? Let’s start it!

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Emily Conway's avatar

Love this, Amanda. We have to pay attention to ourselves; everything stems from that. When people ask me how I'm feeling, I have trouble answering because I don't want to say, "fine" when I'm not fine. So I tend to pause, which confuses the questioner, who probably doesn't want to be bothered with an honest answer. Sometimes when I manage to figure out how I'm feeling and answer accordingly, I end up in a really good conversation, like in acknowledging my personhood, I've allowed the other person to tap into theirs. Sometimes I just get weird looks! Ah well. To answer your question, today I am o.k., generally, sort of happy, which for me, means good.

Thank you!

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Amanda Saint's avatar

Yes I’ve had loads of weird looks when I answer with how I’m really feeling! I no longer care though! And I’m glad you’re feeling generally sort of happy today. May you feel like that most days! 💙

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Emily Conway's avatar

Glad you are here to share the weird looks with me. Yes, here's to feeling sort of happy more often:)

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Yolanda Valdés's avatar

I’ve accustomed myself to pause and answer accordingly. Today, In my yoga class, I asked each person to connect with how they are really feeling. This is an awareness practice. We often respond from a place of caution, hiding our emotions to avoid judgment or unnecessary conversation.

Therefore, today, I’m feeling physically

tired.

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Amanda Saint's avatar

May you have good rest and feel revived and refreshed tomorrow. I’ve got so much better at listening to my body and resting more. I used to ignore it and then do too much and get sick.

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Korie's avatar

Totally agree that getting into heart space is the best way to (a) be healthy and whole and (b) write something meaningful! It wasn’t until I began a contemplative practice that I was able to regularly get into heart space. Being a left-brained person by nature, it wasn’t always easy for me to connect with my heart. So I’m very grateful for meditation/mindfulness/contemplation and glad that you’ve reminded us to sit with ourselves and our feelings to reconnect ♥️.

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Amanda Saint's avatar

I’m glad to hear you’ve found the way to connect to your heart ❤️

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Derek Lakin's avatar

"...instead of just carrying on and pretending it’s not happening, I sit and look at it. Figure out where it’s coming from and what it’s all about." Honing the skill of facing our suffering and learning what it has to teach us is the greatest superpower we can gift ourselves.

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Marcel markus Graves's avatar

I’m fine , how often have we said that myself I’m far more open now I’ll say not so good which which will open the conversation as to how you feel and if they can help lately I’ve had some financial difficulties which by sharing with friends I’ve had support if I had said I’m fine my mental health would have suffered as a therapist I can use breathing techniques to help ease anxiety so my remedy is always be open speak from the ♥️ as always thank you for sharing

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Amanda Saint's avatar

Doing everything from the ❤️ is definitely the best way. Sorry to hear you’ve been having a hard time. Finances are always challenging, I find!

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